Relationship Counseling

Do you feel alone in your marriage?

Do you constantly feel critized and judged?

Do you feel like you are just getting by day-to-day?

You can’t let go of what your spouse did to you?

Do your ‘talks’ keep ending in the same old argument?

Statistics show that one spouse in over 50% of marriages will answer yes to at least one, if not more, of these questions.

The marriage relationship is one of the most important relationships we will ever have, but it can also be one of the most complicated.  Our society is the most prosperous and healthy of any other society, yet we are facing an epidemic of depression and anxiety based on emotional starvation, often because couples feel disconnected in the most important relationship they have…their marriage. 

Terri utilizes Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples reconnect with one another.  She uses therapy to help couples recognize the patterns they have established in their relationship and offers tools and strategies to break those patterns to create a renewed sense of safety and security with your spouse.

EFT research shows over 70% of couples turned their relationship around; from distressed – no matter how distressed – to happy in 15 – 20 sessions and over 90% of couples “significantly improved”.

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is couples therapy based on 20 years of clinical studies with proven results for couples in crisis.  EFT counseling is based on therapy with your spouse in the safe environment of Terri’s office to help you create a haven of safety and strength in your marriage. Marriage based on a connection with your spouse that makes you stronger as an individual and in your marriage.

Arguing and fighting hide the hidden agenda and focus on surface problems instead of the root issues.

Terri uses EFT to help you and your spouse move past the surface problems you face into the root issues that brought your relationship to this point.  In these root issues, Terri guides you to recognize the destructive patterns of behavior and communication you and your spouse have created in your relationship. Couples recognize these patterns and behaviors are the enemy in the marriage, not each another.

It is very difficult to seek help from a therapist. You keep hoping it will change or that you will read the right self-help book that will bring about change. Yet nothing seems to work.

Terri provides an atmosphere for couples to connect to one another, engage in pivotal conversation; listen to each other’s needs plus articulate your own needs to your partner while drawing them closer.  All in clear simple conversation where parties feel in control about their deepest needs to feel connected and secure in the relationship.

Many therapists work with relationships but do not specialize in helping couples. They have NOT been taught an effective relationship therapy that actually works…outcome-researched therapy.

Terri ‘s passion is your relationship.  Terri believes in the effectiveness of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and the benefits it will offer your partner relationship. Terri recognizes that all relationships/marriages are as unique as the people who are in them.  Terri allows the EFT process to reveal the unique qualities of each partner and how these qualities work in the relationship.

Research has found most couples wait 6 years on average before seeking help.

The longer you wait the harder it can be to repair your relationship.  Taking charge now can give you a better chance to join the over 90% of couples who sought out Emotionally Focused Therapy and saw their relationships improve and continued to have strong and growing marital relationship  after  2 years. 

For more information on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, you can click on www.iceeft.com.